Saturday, October 4, 2014

How We Make New Friends

I think that there are a few popular ways to do this.  My way for a while has been to immediately act as if a friendship is already in place.  Do I know someone that you know or do we have a similar interest?  Well, then.  Let’s act as if we’ve been friends for ages.

I’m not sure this is always very effective.

A friend of mine showed me a different way tonight, a way that I think is better.  And here it is.

Don’t fake connection.  Share a personal story, open up about yourself, and then let the other person make the next move.  Don’t force friendship down someone else’s throat.

A lot of people aren’t as friendly as me or as comfortable in strange situations.  They aren’t ready to warm to someone they don’t know well, and probably rightly so.  Gullibility can result in getting taken advantage of.


Maybe there are all kinds of ways to make new friends, and a right approach with certain kinds.  But I think that I need to be careful in the future.  Careful not to let my good intentions get the best of me.

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